Final Thoughts

My therapist reminds me at nearly every session that it is never healthy to leave bad situations open. You can't move on from it until you yourself have closed it. I am ready to move on from the events that took place yesterday so this is me closing it.

A couple months ago I made a decision on my own to not get together with a group of ladies that I no longer felt comfortable around. Instead, I made the choice to involve myself with the people that I was comfortable around and that shared similar feelings. I didn't say anything to anyone about my decisions. I simply didn't get involved in the slightest bit with the people I didn't want to get involved with. Simple, right? Unfortunately not. Apparently I am a horrible friend because I chose to keep my mouth completely shut about her group rather than telling her how I really felt. According to some things I have read on her blog, it appears that only a true friend would purposely stir up trouble by voicing her opinions even though they know it wouldn't change, solve, or help anything. Okay then, I am a bad friend for keeping my opinions to myself rather than trying to start drama. Apparently I should have done what a former friend did when she no longer wanted some people in *my* group which was to totally bash and bad mouth them and do everything in their power to run those people off. Hmm, interesting. It never occurred to me that that would have been the right thing to do. Silly me.

It's hard to read someone's comments about you to a blog post and seeing that your so called "friend" doesn't make an effort to correct that persons misinformation. Maybe she just didn't do so publicly. (I will use initials here as to not confusing anyone.) Hopefully C. emailed L. to correct her. Like telling L. that I have done just as much for C. as she has done for me. Like watching C.'s kid 4 or 5 times for FREE (something one of C.'s other friend always got paid for). Or letting L. know how much I appreciated C.'s yummy Christmas gifts. I hope her 2 kids enjoyed my daughters gifts to them as much as we enjoyed the treats. I don't even know if her kids even opened the gifts. I am just glad my daughter finally stopped asking when she was going to open a present with her friend Jake. C. suggested she hold on to the gifts until the kids got together and she remembered my daughters gift and they could open them together. This is what I told my daughter for a whole month and then she finally stopped asking because it never happened. Hopefully C. let's her friend know what I great host I was for allowing C to bring her kid to my house while we cropped and left me to clean up all the stuff her daughter pulled out in my house with out offering to help. It's getting pretty petty, isn't it? I suppose it is only fair though for me to be able to give my side of things on my blog. At least if I am going to publicly say something about someone I am going to do it so that someone can see it. Not like others who talk about and bash people in their blog for everyone to see except the person they are talking about. I've never really understood that.

I got blamed for not inviting someone over to someone ELSE'S house. I got trashed because I decided to bow out gracefully from a friendship where I felt I was starting to get stepped on. And that got flipped by a know it all (who really knows nothing) and was accused of being ungrateful for all someone has done for me. That is such a joke. Only I am not laughing. I am done with games. I am done catching the blame for things I have clearly not done. Let's see, what was that saying I read on a blog? Oh yeah, "the one thing this makes crystal clear is who my real friends are".

Book closed........... and burned.